I guess it was inevitable. After leaving university and almost immediately securing steady 9-5 jobs, a few of my friends have already begun to mosey on down those paths sign-posted: ‘settle down’, ‘marriage’ and ‘time to get serious’, and honestly I’m happy for them. Each of them has a well-thought-out life plan and they know exactly what they want both in the short term and the long term.
The only drawback to their new found maturity is that although we were all once on the same page, in the Big Book of Life, (living under the chapter titled: ‘Young, Wild and Free’) these friends of mine have now skipped ahead and overtaken me by a few volumes. And so our lines of thought no longer coincide as frequently as they used to. They look at the next few years of their lives as being the optimum time to find life partners, take on more responsibilties and lay the groundwork for their futures. Whereas when it comes to me, I want to spend my early 20’s exploring and learning, making mistakes and just generally going with the flow and seeing where life takes me.
Let me just stress, however, that neither of our approaches towards this post-adolescence stage of our lives are right or wrong, they’re just different. Personally, I’m happy to retain my somewhat self-indulgent attitude until I know deep down in my bones that I’m ready to focus on the future, settle down and start a family. Because I do ultimately want all of that, marriage and kids…just not necessarily anytime too soon. And so, as of lately, it’s not unusual that I find myself being drawn much more frequently towards the company of my like-minded, immature, impulsive friends who, like me, still have a long way to go before they’ll consider themselves to be ‘real adults’!
So if you feel like it’s not quite time for you to trade in your onesie for a wedding dress, that’s perfectly fine! And don’t pay any attention to those people who tell you that it’s about time that you grew up and took life seriously, because that decision is only yours to make. Only you know what’s best for you and age is nothing but a number. I encourage you to be spontaneous and outlandish, because as the saying goes, you only live once my friend… so sieze the day 😀