N.B.: This is a rant-esque post dedicated to all the single ladies out there who are frustrated and fed up with the male species!
In particular, what is wrong with twenty-something year old guys? I mean seriously, this is not a rhetorical question, I need to know.
Like so many young ladies, I feel like I’m forever wondering why I seem to attract the kind of guy who’s an expert in playing hot and cold games that leave me confused and on the brink of a migraine at least once a day!
These guys just don’t know how to court a girl properly. They don’t know how to make her feel special and they definitely don’t know how to fight for her. They’re more than willing to pack the whole thing in as soon as the waters get a bit rough, because they’ve always got backup options elsewhere that are a bit ‘easier’. Awesome. For years I’ve heard people say that chivalry is dead, maybe it’s time to stop being so naive and hopeful and accept this as an unfortunate fact of life…
Call me old fashioned, or backwards, or old school, call me whatever you like, but when it comes to dating I believe that it’s the guy’s job to ‘woo’ the girl. Girls have a responsibility to impress and keep a guy interested, but at the end of the day he should be the one doing the chasing. It allows him to feel all masculine and macho and it makes us feel special and in turn we start to fall for them: that’s just how it goes. But so many guys are just not willing to put in the groundwork anymore, they want it all and they want it all now, without having to go out of their way.
To begin with they’re so interested and keen, then lo and behold they wake up one day and decide to play the distant and unavailable game, disappearing off the face of the earth, only to suddenly reappear and ask you out again weeks/months later. Huh?! Did I miss something? Oh no wait, YOU did. Your finesse, your swag, your game. Where are they?!
Like most, I’m not the kind of girl who enjoys having to guess whether a guy is actually in to me, or if he’s just lonely/horny with no other girls on the horizon, thereby viewing me as a time-pass/ego boost. Sue me for having some self-respect, but I feel like I’m better than that.
I can’t lower my standards to meet your mediocrity, I just can’t.