Is it just me or have society and the media become very anti-skinny these days?
Think about it, media icons like: Kim Kardashian, Kelly Brook, Mariah Carey, Beyonce and Kate Upton who we constantly see making headlines and filling the gossip magazines all have one thing in common…they’re voluptuous women. And that’s great because it means that we’re finally over the size-zero craze! Hallelujah! Everyone’s finally accepted and embraced the fact that curvy women can be equally as gorgeous as stick-thin runway models. However, it’s also apparent that this new wave of thinking has somehow resulted in skinnier women being discriminated against and thrown into the shade.
Both of my elder sisters are what society would deem ‘skinny’ and these days they’re constantly on the receiving end of comments like: ‘doesn’t anyone feed you?’, ‘are you on a diet or something?’, ‘you’re just skin and bones!’ And although I’m usually exempt from such remarks because I’m what would be generally termed a ‘pear shape’ it’s still extremely frustrating to hear. The pair of them eat like wildebeest but they just don’t put the weight on, blame it on a fast metabolism or whatever you want but they cannot gain weight, end of story. And yet for some reason they’re taunted for it. I genuinely feel like yelling ‘leave them alone that’s just how they are!’ sometimes.
And the music industry does nothing but encourage this discrimination. There are so many popular mainstream anti-skinny songs out there at the moment like: Booty by Jennifer Lopez and Iggy Azalea (the title is pretty self-explanatory!), Anaconda by Nicki Minaj and All About that Bass by Meghan Trainor in which both artists poke fun at all the ‘skinny b******’ out there while praising their own curvaceous figures. Even male artists are joining in the trend. Look at some of the lyrics to Jason De Rulo’s song Wiggle, ‘you know what to do with that big fat butt…wiggle wiggle wiggle!’. All of these current tracks contain lyrics that slam women who are on the lighter end of the scale and glorify those who were born with a bit more junk in their trunks. And that’s great for all the women out there who were previously being critiqued and labelled ‘fat’, but just because we’re now pro-curvy doesn’t mean that we necessarily have to be anti-skinny. Is it really fair to offload all the curvy women’s prior insecurities onto their slimmer counterparts?
I believe that telling someone that they look skinny is just as offensive as telling another that they look fat, but society doesn’t seem to understand that. We’re lead to believe that ‘real’ women have curves (like a coca cola bottle) and so if a woman doesn’t fit that shape, does that mean that she’s a fake woman…an imposter? No. All women are real women.
What we need to understand is that women come in all different shapes and sizes, we’re not made on a mass production line like Barbie dolls, required to have the exact same measurements, we’re individuals. Just like how some women could never be size zeros, other women could never have bodacious bottoms and that’s ok.
We all need to accept and celebrate our natural shapes and sizes, all women are beautiful, not just the voluptuous ones, not just the slim ones… all of us, capisce?!