On Saturday night I went out to a club and was hit on by a couple of guys. One watched me for the duration of two whole songs (not even being slightly subtle, literally stood still in the middle of the dance floor) and then crept over when I headed to the bar, grabbed me by the waist and told me that he thought I was beautiful. ‘Thank you’, I said while wriggling out of his embrace. Truth be told I’m not a believer of finding love in a club, I was there to get tipsy, dance without any inhibitions and have a good time with my two best friends who I hadn’t been out with in months. So when he pulled out his card and insisted on paying for my drink, I told him politely that I appreciated him coming over but I just wasn’t interested and needed to get back to my buddies.
And suddenly his big smile disappeared. ‘Well you’re not all that any way, your loss b****!’ and then he stormed off with his posse. Excuse me, what?! While I initially had a small amount of respect for this guy for having the guts to come over and approach me, I now felt embarrassed for him. He clearly had a chip on his shoulder, not to mention a massive ego that bruised a little too easily. And for the remainder of the night he resolved to give me daggers whenever we happened to cross paths: very mature.
But so many guys are like that these days! Maybe it’s just me but I find that a lot of male early-to-mid twenty-somethings are overly self-entitled and arrogant, thinking that they’re God’s gift and that all girls should consider themselves lucky to be granted even a second of their attention. Such guys believe that if they’re interested in a girl, she must like them back, and if she doesn’t they immediately get defensive and attack her for being so ungrateful. One minute they’ll be complimenting her smile and the next they’ll hear the word ‘no’ and instantly declare her to be a ‘frigid slut’ (pretty sure that’s an oxymoron you moron!) It’s ridiculous.
Guys need to understand that girls have freedom of choice too, we’re under no obligation to say ‘yes’ to you and no you’re not doing us any favours by showing an interest in us. Attraction can’t be forced, it’s a natural thing. Be yourself (not a sleaze-ball!) and show some originality, crack a joke or something, just don’t take yourself so seriously because it’s a real turn-off! And if a girl tells you that she’s not interested show some class; don’t be persistent or bitter or aggressive, take a bow, wish her a good night and move on: be a gentleman…jheeez!