Hand on my heart I genuinely believe that expectations are the root of all evil. No really, correct me if I’m wrong but wouldn’t you rather have no expectations and be pleasantly surprised instead of having to experience that soul-crushing feeling when your expectations are plummeted into the ground? Expectations should be avoided at all costs, end of story, right?
Wrong. The truth is that as much as we may know that it’s sometimes better to expect nothing, putting such a theory into practice is near impossible. As much as we may try to resist it we’re all intrinsically programmed to want that Disney fairy-tale ending and so we just can’t help but to feel hopeful and excited sometimes. Whether that’s because we’re dating someone special, we’ve got a birthday coming up, we’re waiting to hear back after a job interview, we’re moving somewhere new or we’re planning a holiday with friends; we’ll always secretly fantasize about our ideal version of events coming true. And as annoying as it may be when we’re let down, we have no choice but to accept the repercussions of having expectations because unfortunately they’re a part of life.
And so, seeing as it’s pretty clear that our expectations are not going anywhere, I’ve come up with a plan of action to counter this nuisance. I propose that rather than looking at the negatives we need to focus on the positives instead.
At the end of the day you just can’t beat that feeling of absolute ecstasy when on the rare occasion your expectations are actually met (or even exceeded!). Personally I wouldn’t give that feeling up for anything. And so I’ll gladly deal with the lows of having high hopes because ultimately ten expectations shattered are rendered insignificant by just one expectation met. And I know what you’re thinking, such miraculously marvellous occasions do only come around once in a blue moon, but when they do it’s impossible not to feel all warm and fuzzy inside and grin like a fat Cheshire cat that got the cream…so bear that in mind and keep smiling 🙂