How is it that politeness and good-natured friendliness can be misconstrued so easily these days? For example, it’s somehow become the norm for people to assume that you’re secretly harbouring romantic feelings for them if you innocently hit ‘like’ on one of their social media photos, ask what they’re up to, or what their plans are for the weekend. Moreover, this excessive ‘reading into things’ disease has the ability to strike down both sexes, not just the girls!
In such scenarios having a close circle of friends does not help, at all. And that’s because a lot of the time friends act as the catalysts for such situations! They’ll over-think, make something out of nothing and then convince their initially not-so-sure friend to jump on their crazy bandwagon too until everyone’s plunged into happy, day-dream land. Great, until of course the bubble pops and everyone’s dropped right back into a place I like to call, the real world!
So I have a policy. Analyzing and picking apart someone’s behaviour and all of the little things that they may or may not have said or done just to compliment your OWN theory that reflects what you WISH was happening, is NOT the way to go. Just directly ask the person who’s causing all of your confusion, what is going on? And where do I stand? That way you’ll be able to see things clearly, for what they really are. And if they are decent enough to tell you how it is, make sure that you LISTEN! Don’t stick your fingers in your ears and start humming a tune because it may not be what you wanted to hear, appreciate and accept the truth and then (if necessary) move on, or you WILL get hurt later on. If they don’t dignify your questions with a response, surely that says it all and it’s time for you to throw in the towel; onwards and upwards my friend.
Personally I blame it on our over-active imaginations. Our magical yet sometimes misleading minds can cause us to occasionally embellish what’s actually in front of our eyes, leading us to get carried away and ignore the massive hazard warning signs that read: ‘This Is A Pipe Dream; Wake Up!’ The brain is truly fascinating, but it can also really mess with your head at times! It would help if we could have switches, located somewhere behind our ears perhaps, to deactivate our ability to horribly misinterpret events. Don’t get me wrong, I do love having an over-active imagination (it definitely helps for a good blog-post!) but not when it causes me to have false expectations.
Remember, we don’t always get what we WANT, because maybe, just maybe it’s not actually what we NEED. So don’t knowingly misinterpret/misconstrue or misjudge things just to make yourself temporarily happy, always go with your gut and see things for what they really are because when you do that you’re guaranteed to be happier in the long-term 😀