Over-Active Imaginations

How is it that politeness and good-natured friendliness can be misconstrued so easily these days? For example, it’s somehow become the norm for people to assume that you’re secretly harbouring romantic feelings for them if you innocently hit ‘like’ on one of their social media photos, ask what they’re up to, or what their plans are for the weekend. Moreover, this excessive ‘reading into things’ disease has the ability to strike down both sexes, not just the girls!

In such scenarios having a close circle of friends does not help, at all. And that’s because a lot of the time friends act as the catalysts for such situations! They’ll over-think, make something out of nothing and then convince their initially not-so-sure friend to jump on their crazy bandwagon too until everyone’s plunged into happy, day-dream land. Great, until of course the bubble pops and everyone’s dropped right back into a place I like to call, the real world!

So I have a policy. Analyzing and picking apart someone’s behaviour and all of the little things that they may or may not have said or done just to compliment your OWN theory that reflects what you WISH was happening, is NOT the way to go. Just directly ask the person who’s causing all of your confusion, what is going on? And where do I stand? That way you’ll be able to see things clearly, for what they really are. And if they are decent enough to tell you how it is, make sure that you LISTEN! Don’t stick your fingers in your ears and start humming a tune because it may not be what you wanted to hear, appreciate and accept the truth and then (if necessary) move on, or you WILL get hurt later on. If they don’t dignify your questions with a response, surely that says it all and it’s time for you to throw in the towel; onwards and upwards my friend.

Personally I blame it on our over-active imaginations. Our magical yet sometimes misleading minds can cause us to occasionally embellish what’s actually in front of our eyes, leading us to get carried away and ignore the massive hazard warning signs that read: ‘This Is A Pipe Dream; Wake Up!’ The brain is truly fascinating, but it can also really mess with your head at times! It would help if we could have switches, located somewhere behind our ears perhaps, to deactivate our ability to horribly misinterpret events. Don’t get me wrong, I do love having an over-active imagination (it definitely helps for a good blog-post!) but not when it causes me to have false expectations.

Remember, we don’t always get what we WANT, because maybe, just maybe it’s not actually what we NEED. So don’t knowingly misinterpret/misconstrue or misjudge things just to make yourself temporarily happy, always go with your gut and see things for what they really are because when you do that you’re guaranteed to be happier in the long-term 😀

15 replies

  1. I have a “honesty is the best policy” policy, it saves a lot of hurt and misconstrued situations, when I first met my partner I told him about it and he loved it. More people need to be honest and stop living in la la land

  2. Its funny how I am reading this post of yours today when I faced an exactly similar situation as recently as late last night. So this guy thinks of a simple status message as being for him. Funny!

  3. Hate to use the phrase, but it really is a stage most people got through. The ability of teenagers in particular to read situations correctly has been proven by research to be poorer than older people. Most people (not all) get better at it as they grow older, which makes sense, if you think about it. But although it led to much hurt, how I loved the initial feeling of thinking a girl I had a crush on reciprocated my emotions. Of course, the let-down was crushing and felt like it would last forever, but it didn’t.

    • I agree with you Bryan, I think it’s just one of those things that you learn to outgrow through a lot of experience, much like a trial and error process, but even then people seem to relapse! Thanks for stopping by, I appreciate your comment 🙂

  4. My friend and I spent hours addressing this one night. We sabotage our relationships with men all of the time by filling in communication gaps with our OWN personal stories! It is delusional when you really think about it, but it is just so easy to do. Our minds are so powerful and eager to find solutions, even if from a faulty source: the over-active imagination.

    Thank you for this post!

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