“Being nice to someone you don’t like doesn’t mean you’re fake, it means you’re mature enough to tolerate your dislike for them.”
I stumbled upon that quote this morning and thought to myself wow, how true is that?! Well only of course once we replace the ‘being nice’ part with ‘being civil’, because come on we’re only human after all, can’t expect too much from us! In an ideal world we’d be able to permanently block out all of the people that we didn’t like, but in reality that’s not always a viable option.
We all have the misfortune of knowing individuals who we just can’t stand for whatever reason, but who also happen to be permanent fixtures in our lives. Basically these people are here to stay and I’m slowly but surely starting to wrap my head around this.
I’m also learning that it’s not always worth it to explode and start a full on feud with said person/people, because in essence that only makes you feel good in the short term. Step back before you react; consider the bigger picture and the potential repercussions before you open your big mouth. And when you do that, you can usually see that the can of worms that you’re about to unleash onto everyone around you will cause much more harm than good; sometimes it’s best to focus on keeping the peace, rather than on wreaking havoc. Like my mum always says, you have to pick your battles. Some people are just not worth the aggravation of entertaining an argument with, so save your breath for someone/something more deserving of your time and energy.
And look at it this way, keeping schtum is a great way to practice self-control. If you can manage to stand in the same room as someone who really grinds your gears, with a smile on your face and NO angry outbursts or eye-rolls, you deserve a gold star my friend, no actually you deserve much more than that, you deserve an ENTIRE red velvet cake! To tolerate an irritating person is not a job for the weak-hearted and whenever I manage to restrain myself and go against every fibre of my being that’s pushing me to say something to said person, I feel strong, like I can move a mountain or something! Honestly, it can be so empowering to know that you possess the inner-strength to be the bigger person when you need to be. And on days like those I feel like I’m finally getting the hang of this whole adulting thing :P.