Everything happens for a reason— I’m sitting on my bed on a Saturday night, in my polka-dot purple onesie, wondering just how much truth is in that statement.
Does everything in life pan out the way that it does as part of a master plan? A master plan that has an end result that’s guaranteed to be in our favour? Are all of the fortunate and unfortunate events that occur in our lives somehow interlinked? And do they always bring with them a deeper meaning, to teach us something and better us as human beings?
So many questions, I know!
I’ve always thought that everything that’s happened in my life has happened for a reason. That whenever something bad transpired I could learn from it and become stronger and wiser as a result. That if I didn’t get the thing that I desperately wanted, it just wasn’t meant to be for me and that eventually I’d get something better instead. For the most part I’ve believed that this was just how the universe operated, that when it truly came down to it the world was a fundamentally fair place.
But right now I’m not so sure. Maybe everything doesn’t always happen for a reason. Maybe sometimes things happen and there is no lesson to be learnt, no wisdom to be attained. It’s possible that sometimes stuff just happens and that’s that; it’s completely random, end of story.
I suppose that we romanticise our lives by subscribing to the ‘everything happens for a reason’ mentality and there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s an optimistic and wishful way to go through life and a lot of the time things do seem to work out well for the people who think that way.
However as of lately, for me personally, this ideology seems to be doing more harm than good. Always condoning that ‘everything happens for a reason’ and believing in a ‘master plan’ is advantageous, yes, because it encourages me to find a silver lining in the worst of situations and as a result I’m usually quick to pick myself back up. But on the flip-side it can be damaging, because a lot of the time I feel like I’m left naively waiting around for things that may or may not ever happen, trying to connect dots that may not actually follow any pattern.
Ok, let’s say that I stick with my belief that certain events occur for a reason. That’s fine, I’m happy to do that, but I’m at the point now where I’d like to know just what that reason is, or for someone to at least throw me a bone and give me some kind of clue/hint! I’m tired of trying to blindly fit the puzzle pieces together and guess. I’m tired of asking myself, what exactly was the point of that?!
I’m not saying that I want all of the answers, or that I’m about to book a psychic reading, or that I’m all set to abandon my hopeful mindset, no. I’m not about to start seeing the world through some bitter, pessimistic lens, so don’t write me off just yet! I guess I’m just frustrated and questioning things, caught up in my feelings and over-thinking out loud in a hungover, sleep-deprived state.
I don’t know, I guess it’s all relative. Regardless of whether or not everything in life happens for a reason, it’s still an interesting topic to ponder…
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