Last weekend we were all crammed around the bathroom mirror engaging in our unique beauty regimes before a night out. Gluing on eyelashes to accentuate our eyes, dabbing on foundation to even-out our complexions and spraying our hair with various products to make it appear thicker and fuller.
And it got me thinking.
In effect, the process of getting ready largely consists of trying to convincingly cover up our not-so-good-bits. Once the rigorous process is complete, approximately 30 minutes later, something magical happens: our self-esteem skyrockets and we feel much more confident and assured.
It’s human nature to pick ourselves apart, compare ourselves to others and maintain the mind-set that we could always look slightly, if not ten times, better than we usually do.
Love handles, cellulite, stretch marks, wrinkles, scars/blemishes, flat bums and chests, bingo wings, thin eyebrows, dark circles, wide noses, big ears, wonky teeth, chubby cheeks and unsymmetrical features are just a few of the things that we all try to conceal by mimicking YouTube makeup tutorials, choosing clever camera angles and opting for outfit choices designed to flatter our specific body shapes.
But the truth is that no one is 100% happy with their appearance. Even that person who you consider to be the epitome of beauty will have their secret body hang-ups, trust me they really do, they just have a knack for masking their insecurities with a false air of confidence. For example, Beyoncé Knowles has admitted to being insecure about her big ears, Rihanna has an issue with her large forehead, Taylor Swift with her small eyes, Katy Perry with her skin, Kate Beckinsale with her teeth, Daniel Radcliffe with his height and Zac Efron with the size of his head. I guess they are human after all, thank God for that!
So, now that we’re all feeling slightly more reassured, I propose that we adopt a new mind-set and break away from the self-destructive manner in which we usually perceive ourselves.
Right now I want you to forget your flaws. Put them in a figurative box in the corner of your mind if you must, just lock them away and bury them. Done it? Good. Now I want you to focus on three things that you LOVE or at least LIKE about your appearance. It may feel easier to come up with three negatives but you can do it, I believe in you. Just three things that you’ve been naturally blessed with and that over time you’ve come to be grateful for, because they set you aside from everyone else and make you feel uniquely beautiful. Don’t feel embarrassed, own your beauty! It can be anything: your height, your smile, your hair, your feet!
Brushing aside my many insecurities, I’m grateful for:
- My eyes
- My cheekbones
- My waistline
Now it’s your turn. Pretend that you’re looking at yourself through a fresh pair of eyes for the first time and list the first three attractive things that you see. You can scribble them on a piece of paper or below in the comment box. Write it on your forehead with a permanent marker if you must (backwards, of course, so that you can read it in the mirror) and memorise each point. And so when you next have one of those ‘off days’ where you feel like you have an indestructible mountain of flaws, you’ll know that there are at least three reasons why you should be smiling. Just take a much needed break from fixating on your problem areas, start appreciating what you have and believe me when I tell you that you are absolutely, undeniably gorgeous 🙂
6 thoughts on “Feel Good”
For me, it started with seeing a single good thing: my calves. I had faith I’d see more with time, and I have, though only one more immediately comes to mind: my cheekbones. Maybe #3 is my profile. I used to dislike it, but now it looks so strong to me. Love this take on things!
I pretty much have nothing to worry about, except my aging skin, thinning air, a half-broken tooth, non-muscular arms, ugly feet, and bitten off nails. 😉
#1 my face (generally, it ain’t bad!)
#2 my legs
#3 my hair
Yeek! Even when picking out what I like I’m second guessing! This is a good exercise 🙂
1 – Brain
2 – Eyes
3 – Fingers
Yes, I have my brain in a colostomy bag around my neck. ^_^
I totally agree with you that everyone has something they dont like about themselves. Some girls overdo the “covering up” some do absolutely nothing at all and then I guess most like to bring out their good sides. Like Straighten your long hair or wearing an eyeshadow that makes your eyes look amazing. I understand your view and I do agree that we dont need to cover up that much and think that we are the only ones with imperfections, but What about you, dont you feel that it is cozy to get ready with your girls? 🙂 (eventho it can take an hour or so)
1. My eyes
2. My legs
Completely agree that we spend way too much time tearing ourselves to bits over how we look. I reckon we probably all look pretty good actually!!! To everyone but ourselves, a lot of the time…