‘How can you be so laid back?!’
Various friends of mine have asked me this question recently and it’s always whenever a certain (recently recurring) topic happens to crop up in conversation. And that’s the issue of where and how we’ll possibly meet decent guys now that we’ve all left the sociable environment of university and work 9-5 jobs. But for some reason, unbeknown to myself even, I’m just not that stressed about it.
Don’t get me wrong, it would be great to meet a guy and have one of those crazy intense connections where you feel like someone finally gets you, but as of right now I’m much more focused on being a high-flying city-girl, learning how to stand on my own two feet and attempting to be moderately mature/responsible (we’ll see how that turns out!) Essentially, right now it’s all about me, myself and I.
And so my anxiety-ridden friends are always befuddled when I tell them with unwavering certainty not to worry about trivial things, like men, because it’ll happen when it’s supposed to. And that’s genuinely what I believe. We’ll all find someone special one of these days, so why stress and lose sleep over something so inevitable? We’re young; we need to be going out, socialising and meeting lots of new people right now, not hunting for husbands!
To be honest, I’ve come to realise lately that I do have quite a laid back approach to life in general; not a lot fazes me and that can really irritate some people, like my sister for example. She’s one of those obsessive compulsive types who can’t function properly without planning and scheduling every little detail of her life. And because I’m the complete opposite, I can really get under her skin at times! But that’s me. I find it comes much more natural for me to just get on with things and go at my own pace. And for the majority of the time I’d say that I’m relatively content and I really wouldn’t want to be any other way.
Of course I incur regular setbacks in my day to day life, (I am human) and yes I’ll be momentarily disheartened/ annoyed but then I’ll always take a step back and look at the bigger picture. Today a door may have closed in my face, but tomorrow a bigger and better door, or maybe even two doors, will open up in front of me. Just so long as I continue to stay positive and motivated… It’ll happen! And if it doesn’t happen tomorrow, it’ll be the next day or the day after that.
As cliché as it sounds, I’m a strong believer that everything happens for a reason and that there’s a special time for everything, we just have to be optimistic and keep moving forward in the meantime. Wow I really sound like my mum! I guess it’s true what they say, all women do reach a certain point before they turn into their mothers…who would’ve thought my time would come so soon!
So in the words of the legendary Mr Marley (rather than my dear old mum) ‘don’t worry, be happy’ and if possible try not to take life too seriously, it’s all about the journey my friend 🙂