It’ll Happen…

‘How can you be so laid back?!’

Various friends of mine have asked me this question recently and it’s always whenever a certain (recently recurring) topic happens to crop up in conversation. And that’s the issue of where and how we’ll possibly meet decent guys now that we’ve all left the sociable environment of university and work 9-5 jobs. But for some reason, unbeknown to myself even, I’m just not that stressed about it.

Don’t get me wrong, it would be great to meet a guy and have one of those crazy intense connections where you feel like someone finally gets you, but as of right now I’m much more focused on being a high-flying city-girl, learning how to stand on my own two feet and attempting to be moderately mature/responsible (we’ll see how that turns out!) Essentially, right now it’s all about me, myself and I.

And so my anxiety-ridden friends are always befuddled when I tell them with unwavering certainty not to worry about trivial things, like men, because it’ll happen when it’s supposed to. And that’s genuinely what I believe. We’ll all find someone special one of these days, so why stress and lose sleep over something so inevitable? We’re young; we need to be going out, socialising and meeting lots of new people right now, not hunting for husbands!

To be honest, I’ve come to realise lately that I do have quite a laid back approach to life in general; not a lot fazes me and that can really irritate some people, like my sister for example. She’s one of those obsessive compulsive types who can’t function properly without planning and scheduling every little detail of her life. And because I’m the complete opposite, I can really get under her skin at times! But that’s me. I find it comes much more natural for me to just get on with things and go at my own pace. And for the majority of the time I’d say that I’m relatively content and I really wouldn’t want to be any other way.

Of course I incur regular setbacks in my day to day life, (I am human) and yes I’ll be momentarily disheartened/ annoyed but then I’ll always take a step back and look at the bigger picture. Today a door may have closed in my face, but tomorrow a bigger  and better door, or maybe even two doors, will open up in front of me. Just so long as I continue to stay positive and motivated… It’ll happen! And if it doesn’t happen tomorrow, it’ll be the next day or the day after that.

As cliché as it sounds, I’m a strong believer that everything happens for a reason and that there’s a special time for everything, we just have to be optimistic and keep moving forward in the meantime. Wow I really sound like my mum! I guess it’s true what they say, all women do reach a certain point before they turn into their mothers…who would’ve thought my time would come so soon!

So in the words of the legendary Mr Marley (rather than my dear old mum) ‘don’t worry, be happy’ and if possible try not to take life too seriously, it’s all about the journey my friend 🙂

32 replies

  1. Though I’m only sixteen, I totally agree because I feel the exact same way. Life without the pre-planning and scheduling is far better. It’s more exciting that way! And besides, when your life is predictable, you know it’s lost all the magic! what’s a life without a little magic? Anyway, great post. Love the writing. Please do check out my post on optimism titled, “Happiness is a choice” at teenblogzz.wordpress.com. And the rest of the blog too if possible. Thanks for the read! 🙂

  2. Great post. Men have the same challenge. They want to find someone so badly they commit to the first person who gives them positive attention. Or they try to become pick up artist and get a new woman every night. Take some time to develop who you are, then it’ll happen.

    • Thanks for your comment Wayne, what you said is so true. Men have the exact same issue but it’s less pressing for a lot of them because they tend to distract themselves from dreaming of Miss Right by focusing their attention on the many Miss Right Nows that exist out there! Ultimately it’ll happen for everyone when the time is right, so there’s really no need to stress 🙂

  3. Awesome post and completely agree with you! Where is the rush when we still need to also have time to love ourselves and focus on ourselves. I look forward to more posts 🙂

  4. Hi there,

    Firstly Thank you very much for the follow. Your support does not go unnoticed! I’ll hit that follow button right back.

    Reading this article, I feel like you and I are very similar. Trivial things are trivial. I know it’s simply put, but I lost my thesaurus and my world hasn’t been the same! But yes, you have some really awesome thoughts.

    As one wannabe writer to you, the real writer, thank you for noticing my work and thank you for impacting my life with this article.

    Sincerest regards,

    Leroy Milton.

    • Thanks for your comment Leroy 🙂 I’ve had a look around your blog and I have to say that I love your style of writing, your posts are so easy to read and very relatable, so keep up the good work… and you’re definitely not a ‘wannabe’!

      • Such kind words. You honestly have no idea how much this comment means to me.

        I’m trying to break out of my shell slowly and I feel like writing is extremely helpful.

        These kind words really make me want to express more. Thank you very very very much. 🙂

  5. My friends and the people around me think along the “Why am I so laid back?” line, too! I guess it’s the early-to-mid-20s crisis haha. Thank you for stopping by my blog 🙂 Geez, I love you and your blog already!

    • Aww thanks for your comment Tania, I really appreciate it 🙂 I’m so glad that you could relate to the post, it really must be some early-mid-20s crisis that we’re experiencing… Let’s hope that it passes ASAP!

  6. That sounds about right. Because at some point, real life is going to trash whatever you were planning on.
    May as well enjoy it when it happens!

    • Exactly! Just because you plan something to the last detail doesn’t mean that it’ll definitely work out the way that you want… it’s best to just enjoy the unknown and embrace it, that’s the beauty of life! 🙂

  7. It’s funny to me how girls stress about not finding the perfect guy, those girls tend to be the ones that are looking for that ideal guy and miss all the fun of dating. Dating and life in general are supposed to be fun yet as humans we easily forget that!! Besides stressing over the perfect guy or not being married at 25 isn’t going to make you married.

  8. You’re so right, a lot of people bypass the experience of dating and get straight down to serious marriage talks; ultimately it’s a personal choice though, some people enjoy dating and others are terrified of it… I think that you and I are of the former…Thanks for your comment!

  9. My daughter is in the position of waiting for Mr. Right to come along, and it has been a bumpy road. A few weeks ago she told me that instead of worrying about it, she thought she was supposed to wait for a man to come into her life, which made me breathe a sigh of relief. If she waits, I think she has a much better chance of meeting the right person. Also, thanks for following my blog.

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